DIVORCE –THE STIGMA

- Richa

So about 3 years ago, my parents got divorced and I went through many changes in life, from shifting houses to not seeing daddy around often, but one of the most prominent change was the way people around me reacted to this!

In India, till date many of the “modern” families still stigmatize the concept of divorce. People often tend to become judgemental; the guy is automatically considered a man of no values and the woman as a poor helpless lady! In my case things were no different other than the fact that these assumptions were completely false, but this often got me thinking “why are we still facing this acceptance issue? “

People often fail to understand the true meaning of DIVORCE, a divorce is no different from a break up. We as a society are fine with a girl and a guy having multiple dating partners and multiple breakups but if the same guy has a divorce it’s a matter of shame for the family. We need to realise that it is better for two people to stay separately and happily than to stay together in a bitter relationship.

Of course that doesn’t mean that one should jump to the conclusion of divorce at the slightest of inconvenience but one should also not live in pain if the relationship doesn’t bring out the best in them. A divorce can be made much easier for the couple if society opens up their minds and accepts it with equal will as they would accept a wedding. To not be ashamed of a divorcee but to understand their situation is what makes it an accepting society , a truly “modern” society.

As a child of divorce , it wasn’t easy going through all these changes , there were points in my life where there seemed no ray of hope , but that is not how nature works , no matter how tough times you will have to see there will always be happiness waiting round the corner ! It is up to you , whether you want to break down before reaching the corner or have the courage to get back on the track and live your life positively and happil !

You should know that a divorce is completely normal, there is nothing that can tear you apart and certainly if I could overcome it then so will you, just have faith in yourself and look at the positive part that your parents are going to live happier lives now and no matter how the world reacts to it be confident about yourself!!

DIVORCE IS NO LONGER A TABOO LETS NOT TREAT IT AS ONE!